The term TAR (Toxic Abusive Relationships) was coined by Dr. Jamie to help make sense out of a universal clinical situation that makes no sense at all. Dr. Jamie realized that a collective everyday language and a unique approach for those impacted by toxic individuals was vital. According to NIMH, the prevalence of personality disorders found in every walk of life is nearly 10%.
TAR is characterized by the Dark Triad of a lack of empathy, lack of accountability, and a Machiavellian approach in any relationship. Unsuspecting empathic people who have stepped in TAR are figuratively stuck in a dark, thick substance – composed of shame, blame, isolation, gaslighting, and trauma bonds – triggered by their own unresolved childhood wounds.
To help those who consider themselves the walking wounded or collateral damage left in the wake of narcissistic abuse, Dr. Jamie, along with an international team, founded STAR Network.
Your presence here means that you are now a STAR (Survivor of Toxic Abusive Relationships) and no longer a victim. Today, you are truly a Survivor!
By joining TAR Anon™ and prioritizing your CPTSD recovery, you have reached a significant milestone – moving from victim to Survivor! The STAR represents the broken heart created by TAR and beginning the process of healing our lives from CPTSD. The golden stitches mend our broken hearts and symbolize the movement and journey dedicated to discovering our own authenticity. Reparenting ourselves, developing our own emotional self-regulation plan, and routinely practicing co-regulation can help us move forward with a new, healthier family of choice.
STAR Network welcomes you into this community – with the support of the CPTSD Foundation – to find the vital healing in our lives, to turn childhood mirages into real oases, while protecting our respective recoveries from relapses.
As we symbolically say to each other every day on this powerful healing journey – Stay Gold, STAR, Stay Gold!
STAR Network™ (formerly TAR Network) is a 501(c)(3) foundation dedicated to bringing worldwide awareness and treatment to those whose emotional reality has been distorted by narcissistic abuse.
The mission of STAR Network is to support men, women, the LGBTQ+ community, tweens & teens, families, parents who are alienated from their children, workers, and caregivers going through or emerging from TAR. With subject matter experts, affiliates, organizations with supportive resources, and our individual donor community our programs will help you out of the fog and into the light.
STAR Network is currently developing several innovative projects:
There is strength in numbers. We’ve all suffered from trauma and abuse at the hands of someone close. Please join us in this worldwide effort toward recovery.
TAR Anon is a safe, nonjudgmental, and anonymous worldwide program dedicated to providing emotional regulation, co-regulation, and healing from CPTSD. A place of support, compassion, and respite, people in need of connection and recovery can meet, access information, and share experiences at no cost.
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Knowledge is power. When it comes to toxic relationships, knowledge can arm us with the necessary tools to take decisive action against the red flags.
Step out of the fog into the light. Register with STAR Network and receive our monthly newsletter filled with information on recovery from Toxic Abusive Relationships (TAR).
Narcissistic abuse destroys innocent lives. STAR Network‘s goal is to end transgenerational trauma, leading to a healthier world for future generations.
Immersing yourself in this global community – by sharing your journey and lessons learned, making a donation, or linking local resources – is invaluable in building awareness and creating unique programs.
We can’t do this without your help.
We are proud to introduce a network of like-minded professionals and organizations that are generous enough to provide a wide range of services to people affected by TAR.
If you know of or are a part of an organization who may be interested in working with us, please reach out to us at contact@starnetwork.org.